“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”
Oh how nice that would be … The statement is a typical response to an insult, implying that “You might be able to hurt me by physical force but not by insults“. If only that were true, and life was as simple as that. Many of us remember these words, and have said them on more occasions that we would care to admit or remember. I used to say it all the time when I was bullied in school, and I still revert back to this saying when I hear the vicious things people say, even now at 34 years old! In today’s society, we are taught that words are meaningless and we must find the strength within to defeat them. True courage consists in doing what is right, despite the jeers and sneers of our companions.
“Keep in mind the person that came up with the old adage, ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’ was obviously deaf.” – Unknown
To this day, I am still affected by the things people have said in the past and continue to say, and I believe that I always will be, simply because I know the power of words. Words have more power than anything else we know, they are the power behind every creation that exists today, behind every strength and every weakness. Words are the only things that have the power to speak everything and anything into being, dreams, hopes, prayers. Words are remembered easily, and it can take a million compliments to build You up, but only one insult to send it all crashing down.
We are also taught that “the Truth hurts”, and when we are hurt by words, the follow through on those very words that caused us pain, is the statement “the truth hurts”. So … Does that mean that when someone verbally attacks us, that the statements and accusations against us are true because they hurt? Absolutely not! People are entitled to their opinions, and regardless of what they think, say, or do, they will always have their opinions of You. What matters, is whether You believe it, and this is crucial when dealing with life in general. The next time someone insults me, I can’t promise, but I will try to remember that I do not know their pain that causes them to lash out at someone else. The other reason is judgement, they judge what they don’t understand when they should not be judgemental in the first place.
“People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones … Because they will have nowhere to live” – Unknown
Surely that must be the reason behind the ugliness we see in Today’s world. People are not born ugly inside, they become angry and bitter because of life, of all the times they have been let down, hurt, attacked themselves, or perhaps they just didn’t have a better example in life, which is the only reasoning I have been able to find for the behaviour. The reason they target You, is because You have qualities they wish they could possess, it could be discipline, good nature, generosity, good looks, it could be anything, but generally, I have found that people will attack the very qualities they wish they possessed. It is so hard to look past the things we do not like, in order to see the things we would actually love, yet it should become a daily challenge for all of us. If we combat the ugliness with words of love, encouragement and hope, we may not get through the wall today, but we will break it down tomorrow. Always carry with You the knowledge and hope that Your words have the power to make Your world a better place, and they can change the way people see You, and themselves. Use as many positive words in a day as You can and You will see the positive change.
“Never say anything about Yourself that You do not want to be true!” – Unknown
Ultimately we need to concern ourselves with two things when it comes to the power of words. Firstly, we need to make sure that we are careful of the words we say, because they have the power to hurt or heal, and once they are out there You can’t take them back, You can only apologise. We are the only ones that are responsible for what we say. Secondly, we shouldn’t say anything about ourselves that we do not want to be true, as we are “putting it out there”, and You should only say it, if it is something You would want to happen, or something You want to reflect in your life. I have made comments like “I can’t trust people”, “I am never allowing anyone else in again to hurt me” etc etc … Fact is, people will let You down, they will hurt You, and it is unfortunately part of life. You on the other hand, can choose to stop living by building those walls nice and high and becoming bitter inside, or … You can live, take risks, and show everyone that no matter what is said or done, YOU will rise above it all, and be a better person because of it.
Lead by example, and be someone who You would love to meet on this wonderful journey we call LIFE. Ask Yourself every day, are YOU building up, or breaking down?
Remind Yourself each day of the things that are important –
You really are …. Perfectly imperfect
You have a purpose and were created for great things …
You can and are making a difference even though you may not see it …
You DO believe in yourself, in the person You are meant to be …
You are worthy of a good life and deserve to be happy …
You are blessed and have so much to be grateful for …
You are loved, and have so much love to give …
You are BeAuTiFuL inside and out …
You are not meant to fit in with the rest, YOU are meant to stand out and SHINE!
Keep shining, keep believing, and keep living … Just BE YOU!
- Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me (debbie-carr.com)