Sisters by birth, friends by choice …

My better half, my twin

“A sister is one who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.” – Unknown


You often hear about the closeness of siblings, particularly that of twins, but it is so different to actually experience it. I can honestly say that I feel so privileged to have the bond that my twin and I share. As our 35th birthday approaches this weekend, I want more than ever to be able to share this day with her, but sadly it will not be happening anytime soon. My sister Liz and I have lived apart since 2000, when I decided to leave the UK and start a new life in South Africa. The hardest decision I have ever had to make was leaving my sister behind, and yet, I have never even told her that.  The closer we get to our birthday, the more I miss her and there are so many thoughts going through my head right now, and memories that I am reliving. Just thinking of her now makes me want to cry because I love her more than anyone would ever understand or comprehend … She really is the better part of me.


“There was just so much awesomeness that God decided to make two of us in order to fit it all in, and besides that, Good things come in two’s


We are definitely “two peas in a pod” and absolutely identical. We shared our own language for the first 2 years of our lives that only we could understand. We chipped the same tooth at the same age, within 6 months of each other on two separate occasions that even dental records would probably not differentiate us. We played tricks on teachers, switched uniform and pretended to be the other twin, we’ve kissed each other’s boyfriends to see if they could tell the difference, and no, no one could tell us apart. We have had so much fun, and truly lived our childhood embracing our relationship and bond as twins … Ok, all except for the time that she tried to kill me when she threw a “wooden clog” at my head and hit my temple! That is a memory I’ll never forget, but a good one at that.


Sisters by birth, friends by choice, and I would choose you 100 times over”



In the cookies of life, sisters are the chocolate chips.



“In the cookies of life, sisters are the chocolate chips.” – Unknown


When we became adolescents, we struggled to find our own identity, and we tried as hard as we could to distance ourselves from each other, at one point, we loved to hate one another, we barely spoke, and socialised in different circles. I kept something from my sister that I should have told her, and when she did find out, it nearly tore us apart for good. We haven’t been able to be there for each other with the birth of our children, or many birthdays and special occasions, but she makes the effort to visit South Africa and I visit the UK when I can, we have generally seen each other once every 18 months for the past 12 Years.  We have shared two birthdays since we turned 13; it was our 18th and our 30th. This Year is particularly hard, because we are closer than we have ever been, and our bond is unbreakable. With all that we have been through in our lives, and all that we have shared, we grown together and we are still one, we always will be. She is my best and truest friend, and for that I just want to say Thank You!



“My sister is the sweetest little thing alive; words can hardly describe my love for her.”


My beautiful sister


We so seldom share our feelings with the ones we love, or tell them just what they mean to us. I figured the best birthday present I could give her was another piece of my heart, and actually tell her exactly how I feel about her. This post is dedicated to you, Liz, my better half, and this is what I would like you to know –


You’ve always boasted about kicking me out, as I arrived first and you were born breach. You jumped into this world two feet behind me, must be your zest for life, your many goals to reach.

All I have ever wanted to do is protect you from any possible harm, yet I haven’t really needed to, you have avoided it easily by simply exuding your unique charm.

You have been there from the second our hearts started beating as one, and today although we are far apart, you are far from gone.

There is not a single second of any given day that I do not think of you, or ache to hear your voice. I know we are living miles apart, and I can’t complain as it was after all my choice.

Of course we’ve had our differences along the way and I may call you names at times, even scream and shout. Whether you are right or wrong no one else can point out your faults, they will have me to deal with, I may end up knocking them out!

We have shared so much together, every part of our lives, every tear, every laugh, and every precious smile. Yet this is not enough for me, and I want more, even if it’s only once in a while.

Please never forget just how much I truly love you, and that you are the piece that completes me. You have given me so much in life, most of all you have given me the courage and freedom to just be.

 I miss hearing your laugh, holding your hand, and feeling the warmth of your love as you hug me tight. I guess no matter what paths we take, being apart will never seem right.

 As we celebrate yet another Year of our lives, and all the good we have been so blessed with in life, I want you to know that I have loved every second with you at my side, including the strife.

 You my sister, my twin, the better half of me, must never forget how special you are or how our hearts will forever entwine. At least I still get to share a giggle and a cry, albeit over many miles and a good glass of red wine.

 Thank You for the best 35 Years of my life, for all the good and the bad, for the giggles and the hugs, for the tears of sadness and of joy. I will forever cherish these memories, they are engraved in my heart, the beauty of you and of us, I will always enjoy.



Girly giggles and precious moments

The hugs I want from you

“Close together or far apart, you’re always on my mind and forever in my heart.” – I LOVE YOU


13 thoughts on “Sisters by birth, friends by choice …

  1. Carolyn Hughes says:

    What a beautiful heartwarming post. It really brought tears to my eyes. It’s so lovely to read of a bond between siblings instead of rivalry, and the love and friendship you share is so special. Thank you for sharing your memories and I wish you both a very Happy Birthday 🙂

  2. supriya says:

    First let me wish both of you a very HAPPY B’DAY. You’re really very lucky dear. One who has a sister like you is herself the luckiest girl and if your better half is reading this I must say you’re luck too. I don’t have any sister but I find my sister cum friend in my best friend…………thanks 4 such a sweet & heart touching post not everyone is able to show their love in such a beautiful way.:)
    My fav. lines in your post are:
    “A sister is one who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.” – Unknown
    “Close together or far apart, you’re always on my mind and forever in my heart.”

    • Simply Me says:

      Thank You sooooo Much (Big hugs for You right now) 🙂 I love your comments, and appreciate the birthday wishes. How can a girl feel lonely on her birthday with so many wishes and love. Thank you x

      • supriya says:

        BIG HUG FROM MY SIDE TOO 🙂 and remember at any point of life never feel alone someone somewhere is facing the same thing. We all connected from heart ( its a secret place where god reside:) )

  3. ZazuMove says:

    That goes to the heart – so honestly and full of love. Belated happy birthday for both of you!
    Your post is also very inspiring, because Iam a mummy of twins. I hope when they will be grown up that they will stay friends like you both . Until now it seems so, they are very connected to each other 🙂 Thank you – once more you open my eyes to very special aspects of my life! Sunny cheers, Katharina

    • Simply Me says:

      Thank you so much Katharina for the birthday wishes and very thoughtful comments. You have your hands full with twins, but they will be worth every step of the journey 🙂

      • ZazuMove says:

        Yes, that is so true – children are an enrichment for the parents and for the world. Perhaps we should see it less as a job… their love outweighs any everyday routine. Sunny cheers, Katharina

  4. StillValerie says:


    This is such a beautiful and heart-warming post. I can relate to your connection with your twin sister as I’ve seen the really close bond between my twin nephews. It seems so much closer than the bond I share with my non-twin siblings.

    Warmest wishes for a great birthday and an AMAZING year ahead.


    • Simply Me says:

      I can’t read my own post without crying, I miss her terribly. I’m so glad that the emotion and bond came across in the post, I really wanted her to know how I feel about her. Thank you for your feedback, and for taking the time to visit my blog. Big hugs x 🙂

  5. Sandy's Hopeful Room says:

    Oh my!!! I am not a twin, but I am the oldest of 6 siblings, two of which are gone now. I felt every emotion you have described and during this post wished you two could be closer. Was it a move for business purposes or just because?

    I wish you two all the best. . .sisters are in each other’s hearts, whether or not you are a twin. Although I do admit that twins would share a much closer bond.


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