”To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance – Oscar Wilde”
How comfortable are you with the skin you’re in? I recently watched a motivational talk on YouTube by Nick Vujicic – (DVD Clip from No Arms, No Legs, No Worries – Jr. High Talk), I am humbled beyond words. Just when you think you have every right to feel uncomfortable with the way you look, someone like Nick comes along and smacks you with a good dose of perspective. What hit me the most from the 16 minute video was the statement Nick made that living with no arms and no legs was easy, it was watching his loved ones and others go through difficulties that was hard for him … Imagine that! No arms, no legs, easy? We’ve all experienced the difficulty and emotions of managing the expectations of others and attempt to gain their acceptance.
“With the power of encouragement, you can save a person’s life. – Nick Vujicic”
Nick stated that we each have the power to destroy or save a life.We could be the final straw that tips a person over the edge or the one saving grace that keeps them from hurting themselves or possibly worse. In one day alone, Nick counted the number of people who said something cruel or negative to him, after number 12 he felt that if there was just one more negative person then he would break, he couldn’t do this anymore. Number 13, was someone who told him how good he was looking that day, that kept him positive, holding on to face another day. Do we really have a society that condones discrimination against anyone less than perfect? Unfortunately, yes.
“No negative self-talk, no negative body image, or excuses allowed here!”
I do believe that society has an image of what we are supposed to look like but I believe that it is unrealistic, it is a lie. We would all love to be like the bronzed toned swimsuit model, or athlete with the 4, 6, or 8 pack, but we are not, neither are they without the airbrushing, enhancements and cosmetic surgery. It is the acceptance of ourselves and others that makes us comfortable with the skin we are in and less judgemental. What scares me for society as a whole is the fact that children are becoming cruel and attacking other children for being less than “society’s perfect”. We have minors, some as young as 7, that suffer with eating disorders, behavioural issues and self-harming which is largely contributed to by the fact that they do not feel accepted; they don’t feel a sense of belonging, or self-worth.
We get told so many negative things by others, we are told we can’t do certain things, or that we don’t quite meet the required standards, but ultimately we have the power of choice. It is our choice to accept the opinions of others, or to define the truth for ourselves. Personally, what I gained from this message is that regardless of appearances, what matters is our purpose in life. Nick’s purpose is clearly to enhance the lives of others by giving them an honest self-image and not a false one. Perhaps it is time to focus on finding our own purpose in life, rather than worrying so much about how we look and what others may think. Surround yourself with people who can see your beauty even if you can’t see it.
“Beauty does not have a weight limit.” – Unknown
I have struggled with self-loathing as a teenager and adult due to weight issues. After I had my son I managed lose weight and maintain an “ideal” weight for me, yet some said I looked ill bordering on anorexic. I was nicknamed “Anna” for anorexic. Then I stopped smoking and put on 10 kilos, I was called “fat” by colleague in our open plan office for all to hear; this was about 18 months ago. I started smoking again and I became obsessed with my weight, and would cry if I gained one kilo. It is a prison of low self-esteem, there is absolutely no freedom, and all you ever want to do is cover yourself up. Yet, I have both arms and both legs, so what do I honestly have to complain about!
“Once you accept yourself just the way you are, warts and all, then you will be more beautiful that you could possibly imagine.”
I have met gorgeous people with bodies most would love to have, yet they have just as many insecurities and low self-esteem too. It doesn’t matter what size you are or what you would like to change about yourself, we are generally never happy with how we look. Just when we “fix” one thing about our appearance, we will find something else to “fix”. If we give ourselves something else to focus on, something positive, then we won’t have time to feed the negative self-image and hate the skin we’re in.
“Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, hate, drama or negativity stop you from being the best person you can be.” – Unknown
We teach our children their most valuable life lessons. They grow up with perceptions that become their realities. The only way we can take preventative measures to stop society’s perceptions becoming their “norm, is to start with you. Regardless of what you think of feel, there is beauty inside you. Start this amazing New Year ahead of you with a new self-image. An image of confidence, of love, of infinite possibilities, all of which you carry inside you.
“I would rather work on becoming more beautiful on the inside, than trying so hard to change the outside.”
External beauty fades but the real beauty of you will always shine through. The external beauty you wish to achieve can only be found in confidence anyway. moderate confidence is always more attractive than an aesthetically beautiful personal with low self-esteem. When you love who you are it shows, you “glow” with inner beauty. If you can get that right, then life is Be-YOU-tiful!
I am just me …
“I’m BEAUTIFUL inside”
- Be Thankful & Be Inspired Video (endlesslightandlove.com)
- NICK Biography of a Determined Man Trailer (dailynewsofinspiration.wordpress.com)
- Girls … You ARE Beautiful. Guys … You da Man (lifeschoolinc.wordpress.com)
- High Attitude Nick (dpstinkyfinga.wordpress.com)
- That’s what makes YOU Beautiful … (simplymejustbe.wordpress.com)