Leave out all the rest …

The trouble is You think you have time - BuddhaSource: Pinterest

 

“The trouble is, you think you have time.” – Buddha

 

Why are we so determined to hold on to unspoken words until it’s too late!

We do it all the time! Why … Because as Buddha so aptly stated “We think we have time”. Yet … we don’t, we deal with constant reminders every day of how short life really is. Last week was the 2nd Year anniversary of the death of my friend, Ilse. It hurts because of all the pain left behind when she passed, not just because she was barely 30 when she died, or the fact that her death was very sudden and unexpected, but also because of the words left unspoken. There is so much I would have loved to say to her.

 

“I doubt very much whether my friend truly knew just how loved She really was” …

 

When it was time to say goodbye at her funeral, I saw people who were not just grieving the loss of someone they loved, but they were hurting because there were too many words left unspoken, “unfinished” business”, no opportunity to right any wrongs or try to make peace before such a tragedy struck. As I chatted to her family and friends, the main question they asked that struck me, was whether she knew what she meant to them. I probably had many opportunities to tell her what she meant to me, yet I didn’t take them all. Instead, I could only tell her in her eulogy, which she will never get to hear. I know that I showed her what she meant to me with the way I treated her while she was with us, but it is something else when someone you care about actually takes the time to tell you to your face.

 

Be a best friend, tell the truth and over use I LOVE YOUSource: Pinterest

 

Be a best friend, tell the truth and over use “I LOVE YOU”!”

 

So what if you tell someone 100 times a day that you love them if that’s what you feel, it’s better than missing even one chance to say it. What really matters when it involves the people you love the most? Why are people only ready to forgive, let go, and finally say what they feel when someone dies or moves away and the moment has passed? Why let petty arguments or mistakes grow into lifelong grudges and miss out on friends and family while they are still here and we have the opportunity to share moments with them that we will never get again.

 

“Time is the second most precious gift we have; the most valuable gift is life itself. What we do with the time we have is what determines the legacy of the life we live” …

 

One of my favourite songs is “Leave out all the rest – Lincoln Park”, it really does get the message across and makes you ask yourself … What am I leaving when I’m done here? The verse I love the most is … “So if you’re asking me I want you to know. When my time comes, forget the wrong that I’ve done. Help me leave behind some reasons to be missed, and don’t resent me when you’re feeling empty keep me in your memory … Leave out all the rest”

 

 

I'm strong on the surface, not all the way through, I've never been perfect, but neither have you

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“I’m strong on the surface, not all the way through, I’ve never been perfect, but neither have you” …

 

The reality is that we will make mistakes, hurt the ones we love, and do things we are not proud of but that’s life! … How we react to it is what matters. Live life simply and stick to the basic principles of life that we have grown up with. Don’t leave your loved ones without a kiss goodbye and a kind word. Try not to end the day with unresolved arguments, swallow your pride, accept the apology you are probably not going to get anyway and decide what’s more important Do you need to be right, or do you want to do what’s right? When it’s your time, it’s your time, we don’t know when that is and we can’t do anything to change it either, our paths are already mapped.

 

“Time is precious, waste it wisely” …

 

Celebrate your life and the ones in it, regardless of your life’s journey, this is your life and only you can determine the legacy you leave behind once you’re gone. I want my loved ones to remember me with laughter and love in their hearts. I want them to giggle at this girl who wouldn’t shut up, suffered from verbal diarrhea, but there was no question as to how she felt about life, and everything in it, especially the ones she loved. I want to teach my son that regardless of what a person does that may hurt you, what matters is who and what that person is to you … leave out all the rest.

 

The strange thing about life is how we learn our greatest lessons when it’s too late

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“The strange thing about life is how we learn our greatest lessons when it’s too late.”

 

May you always find the courage within to express your feelings, not later, but now, before it is too late. Sometimes all you have is one moment, one chance, and you have no choice but to take it.

 

 

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19 thoughts on “Leave out all the rest …

  1. StillValerie says:

    Thanks for the reminder to live life fully now and to tell those we love how precious they are to us.

    I am grateful for the wisdom you share with your readers in the blogosphere.

    Blessings for your best year yet in 2013!

      • jonathanhilton says:

        Your welcome, what you wrote is so much in line with the writing I was working on that I wondered if you were looking at my computer screen! lol Great motivation for me and as always your writing inspires me.

      • Simply Me says:

        Oh my word I know exactly what you mean! I see posts on WordPress all the time from the blogs I follow, and my feeling is that the writer was in my head and in my heart, and put it in print! There is definitely a universal message out there! Best we start listening … 🙂 Thanks again for the encouragement Jonathan.

  2. optimisticgladness says:

    This is a great reminder! Let us not be stingy with our love for one another! Thank you for this great post.

  3. supriya says:

    Excellent as always. I am emotional person too. It easy for me to express my feeling to others (specially with written words 🙂 ) But you know it feels bad when the other person don’t take our feelings seriously or say when they take it for granted……..but I still believe in showing my emotion & telling others how much they matters to me whenever i get chance….LOVE U TOO ❤

    Best lines for you post:
    Be a best friend, tell the truth and over use “I LOVE YOU”!”
    “Time is the second most precious gift we have; the most valuable gift is life itself. What we do with the time we have is what determines the legacy of the life we live” …
    “I’m strong on the surface, not all the way through, I’ve never been perfect, but neither have you” …

    And my dear I will always remember you hope you too remember this silly friend of yours 🙂

    • Simply Me says:

      Hello my silly friend 🙂 I love your comments, and appreciate them as always! It keeps me motivated and inspired to keep writing and spreading as much positivity as we can.

      It is easy to take people for granted, or get used to them being there, and we put off the things we shouldn’t, every day is a new day, an opportunity to remind them of how much we really care. x

    • Simply Me says:

      My friend, this is absolutely positively your Year! Embrace not only the opportunities that lie before you, but embrace the very essence of who you are! May 2013 be your best Year yet! Thinking of you x 🙂

    • Simply Me says:

      Carolyn, people like you are daily reminders, inspiration on the darkest of days, and hope when it all seems lost. Thank you my friend for your comments and for your encouragement xxx

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