YOU’VE CHANGED …
How many times have you been told that you have changed and that you are not the same person anymore? I can’t speak for other’s but I for one, have heard that statement every time there has been an argument between a friend and I, especially when they are about to walk away from the friendship and not look back. I used to think that it was a bad thing until I realised just how positive change is and that it is essential to becoming the person you are meant to be.
“The only person that you should try to be better than, is the person you were yesterday.”
If you do not make changes in your life to grow and develop then you are keeping things in your life that are holding you back and you will not be able to move forward. If you recognize the changes you want to make then it means that you are learning and you are motivated to do more with the lessons life teaches you. It means letting go, sometimes it is a person, or a job, or a habit, whatever it is, letting go is never easy but it is so worthwhile. Once you make a stand in one area of your life, the rest automatically falls in to place. The hardest part is taking the first step, its new territory and the unknown but once you start you will wonder why it took you so long in the first place.
“When people say that you have changed, it simply means that you have stopped living life their way.”
Don’t be put off by people who say that you have changed, be encouraged by it, you are on the right track. Perhaps the negativity you face is purely because they would love to have the same courage you have shown to make a decision that they know was not an easy one to make. People only criticise what they don’t understand or that which they admire yet are unable to achieve for themselves without the right motivation.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
Perhaps we should start thanking the people who notice the changes, for without them, we would not realise just how much progress we are making. Besides, they say a change is as good as a holiday, and we all know how we love the odd vacation. Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. So the next time someone complains that you have changed, look them straight in the eye, proudly declare “I KNOW, I AM JUST ME AND I AM AWESOME”. What others don’t like, they don’t have to entertain, but the same goes for us, only entertain the positives in life. Be with people who only want to build you up, not break you down.
“Trust yourself then you will know how to live.” – Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Do they know what you have gone through, or what it has taken to make those changes? Chances are they barely know you at all. They know someone with traits they liked, even loved, who has been a work in progress and has become someone who is changing continuously, like a caterpillar who transforms into a butterfly. If they stick around to see the beauty of those changes then they are a true friend, if not, then you were better off when they decided you had changed too much for their liking.
Here’s to a brand new you, you’ve changed :)
- You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be. Marianne Williamson (patriciamellin.wordpress.com)
- A Love Letter to Myself (annemarieoliverart.wordpress.com)
- Dreams (loveayoungheart.wordpress.com)